Archive | July, 2008

…And The World Hates Men Too

17 Jul

Young, Attractive Blonde Lady: ” Don’t get me wrong, I have a great sex life. But sometimes, my husband just wants to cuddle. So what does that mean, when he just wants to cuddle and I am wanting to have sex?I want him to always want me.”
Editor of Men’s Health Magazine Man: “Hmmm, interesting. I’m thrown off that you are complaining that your guy wants to cuddleIt could be two things. My first thoughts are maybe he had a long day at work, and cudeling is all he has energy for. My second through is maybe he’s just not that into women.”

Masculinity, as defined by Free Society of ours, is confined inside a straight-jacket of expression. The idea that a man would at any point in time not want to have sex is so unfathomable to his partner that she is concerned and finds it abnormal, and so perplexing to the Men’s Health expert that his sexual orientation is questioned.

If I ever have a male child, I sweat he’s being raised in a big, yellow bubble.

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…And The World Hates Men Too

17 Jul

Young, Attractive Blonde Lady: ” Don’t get me wrong, I have a great sex life. But sometimes, my husband just wants to cuddle. So what does that mean, when he just wants to cuddle and I am wanting to have sex?I want him to always want me.”
Editor of Men’s Health Magazine Man: “Hmmm, interesting. I’m thrown off that you are complaining that your guy wants to cuddleIt could be two things. My first thoughts are maybe he had a long day at work, and cudeling is all he has energy for. My second through is maybe he’s just not that into women.”

Masculinity, as defined by Free Society of ours, is confined inside a straight-jacket of expression. The idea that a man would at any point in time not want to have sex is so unfathomable to his partner that she is concerned and finds it abnormal, and so perplexing to the Men’s Health expert that his sexual orientation is questioned.

If I ever have a male child, I sweat he’s being raised in a big, yellow bubble.

DoubleUSA Today

16 Jul

Ah, WSA: the Women’s Student Assembly of the university of southern california. An interesting place to call home, considering the tenant we hold sacred and hope to spread like the plague, best put by Gloria Steinem, “A feminist is anyone who recognizes the equality and full humanity of women and men.” And although school is out for the summer, WSA remains perpetually in session.

America, you big, nosy neighbor, I’ll grant you a solid; here is a sneak peak at the inner working of the Anti-Christ in a a red dress formally known as the Women’s Student Assembly:
We are stopping prop 4 from passing in CA in the upcoming november general elections. We Are, and there is no way around it. Just like the prop 85 parental notification law was turned down in 2006, and it’s twin sister just a few years before that, we’re determined to give prop 4 the same non existent destiny.

To be honest, prop 4 scares me; however, a similar proposed constitutional amendment on an upcoming ballot in Colorado terrifies me like a giant ominous cloud predicting a storm of the likes i’ve never experienced. Brief synopsis of the two to my understanding:
Prop 4 in California: requires a physician to notify a minor’s parents/legal guardians of her plan to abort at least 48 hours before the procedure, or otherwise obtain a parental waiver. In the case of domestic abuse households, the minor may appeal to a judge in court to waive the need for parental notification or a waiver. ( note: this is worthless for the following reason.) Any person may only obtain abortions within the first 23 days of pregnancy; 24 days and beyond will be considered murder, and may be prosocuted as such. Any doctors who do not follow or report any part of this proposed law will be fined, heavily.

Colorado proposed amendment: a proposition to amend the state constitution to define life at FERTILIZATION. Thus, any tampering with terminating a pregnancy is murder. Miscarriage may be murder if it is proven that a mother drank or smoked ( neglect), and and idea of a chlids existence once fertilized is granted the full set of rights of an adult citizen. IF YOU DON’T SEE WHY THIS IS A SLIPPERY SLOPE, ALLOW ME TO EXTRAPOLATE. The victory for the people backing this proposition isn’t only winning in colorado; it’s winning in colorado, inevitably getting a law case on it from a women who challenges the constitutional foundation of the amendment after feeling it’s wrath, the US Supreme court eventually adopting this case, and overturning roe v wade, setting colorados definition of ‘life’ as a nationwide precedent. All abortions, emergency contraception, IUD’s, and more would be illegal and perhaps tried as murder.

Now, Prop 4 is dark enough on it’s own merits, but i hope you can see, America, that the first step in passing dangerous laws like that proposed in Colorado is first normalized and garnering support for parental notification laws and loser definition of life laws.

we are well on our way to seeing the glass ceiling collapse in. Birth control, in my mind, has given women the blessing of education because having sex didnt means having to be pregnant very young and become a mother. Women are being given al of the responsibility and repercussions but none of the rights and freedoms in these propositions.

steam is coming out of my ears.

As far as the parental notification law goes, adults, hear me out: I know that it is very tempting to vote yes for this prop because you would want your child to tell you if she was pregnant or considering an abortion.Please recognize that just because you’d want to be there to support your daughter and to be notified, it is dangerous to use your relationship and method of parenthood as a blanket rule for all of the daughters and parents in California. Parental notification laws are dangerous and lead to many back-alley abortions, self-administered abortions, domestic unrest, and young girls traveling long distances across state lines to acsess abortions in bordering states with no parental notification laws. If I were a mom, I think i would rather not know about my 15 year old daughters abortion down the road at a planned parenthood than have her travel to nowheresvillie southern washington alone to get the same thing.

I am mad that women’s gift to be able to create life is no longer on her own terms. she is an incubator, she is a battle ground for controversy, she is the dumping ground for politics. steam is coming out of my ears. for more information, look at the cover of the new yorker.

so in the midst of planning our campaign against prop 4 ( and 8 but thats more the glbta territory to plan) i ran across a website and found some saying I like. I’ll close this post with these, to keep things a little more lighthearted:

*A feminist is anyone who recognizes the equality and full humanity of women and men. — Gloria Steinem
*A feminist is any woman who tells the truth about her life. — Virginia Woolf
*Facts are theory laden; theories are value laden; values are history laden. — Donna J. Haraway
*I became a feminist as an alternative to becoming a masochist. — Sally Kempton.
*I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat… — Rebecca West, 1913, The Clarion.
*Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. — Margaret Mead.
*Radical feminism is called “radical” because it is struggling to bring about really fundamental changes in society. We, in this segment of the movement, do not believe that the oppression of women will be ended by giving them a bigger piece of the pie… We believe that the pie itself is rotten. — Bonnie Kreps
*We ask justice, we ask equality, we ask that all civil and political rights that belong to the citizens of the United States be guaranteed to us and our daughters forever. — Susan B. Anthony
*First, whiteness is a location of structural advantage, of race privilege. Second, it is a “standpoint,” a place from which white people look at ourselves, at others, and at society. Third, “whiteness” refers to a set of cultural practices that are usually unmarked and unnamed. [Frankenberg, Ruth. (1993). White Women, Race Matters: The Social Construction of Whiteness. London: Routledge. (p. 1)]
*Men act and women appear. Men look at women. Women watch themselves being looked at. [Simone de Beauvoir, 1949, 16]

and because the first part of this blog post was so bitter, im attempting to counter balance that with the profound and often witty wisdom of various women:

*Because I am a woman, I must make unusual efforts to succeed. If I fail, no one will say, “She doesn’t have what it takes.” They will say, “Women don’t have what it takes.” — Clare Booth Luce
*Easy is an adjective used to describe a woman who has the sexual morals of a man. — Nancy Linn-Desmond
*I speak out of direct and particular anger at an academic conference, and a white woman says, Tell me how you feel but don’t say it too harshly or I cannot hear you. — Audre Lorde
*I have yet to hear a man ask for advice on how to combine marriage and a career. — Gloria Steinem
*I’m not going to vacuum ‘til Sears makes one you can ride on. — Roseanne Barr
*If high heels were so wonderful, men would be wearing them. — Sue Grafton
*It’s interesting to speculate how it developed that in two of the most anti-feminist institutions, the church and the law court, the men are wearing the dresses. — Flo Kennedy
*Men are taught to apologize for their weaknesses, women for their strengths. — Lois Wyse
*My address is like my shoes. It travels with me. I abide where there is a fight against wrong. — Mother Jones.
*Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission. — Eleanor Roosevelt .
*Our struggle today is not to have a female Einstein get appointed as an assistant professor. It is for a woman schlemiel to get as quickly promoted as a male schlemiel. — Bella Abzug
*The truth shall set you free, but first it will piss you off. — Gloria Steinem
*The phrase “working mother” is redundant. — Jane Sellman
*There are very few jobs that actually require a penis or vagina. All other jobs should be open to everybody. — Florynce Kennedy
*We’ll never solve the feminization of power until we solve the masculinity of wealth. — Gloria Steinem
*We’ve begun to raise daughters more like sons… but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters. — Gloria Steinem
*Women are not inherently passive or peaceful. We’re not inherently anything but human. — Robin Morgan
*You see a lot of smart guys with dumb women, but you hardly ever see a smart woman with a dumb guy. — Erica Jong

DoubleUSA Today

15 Jul

Ah, WSA: the Women’s Student Assembly of the university of southern california. An interesting place to call home, considering the tenant we hold sacred and hope to spread like the plague, best put by Gloria Steinem, “A feminist is anyone who recognizes the equality and full humanity of women and men.” And although school is out for the summer, WSA remains perpetually in session.

America, you big, nosy neighbor, I’ll grant you a solid; here is a sneak peak at the inner working of the Anti-Christ in a a red dress formally known as the Women’s Student Assembly:
We are stopping prop 4 from passing in CA in the upcoming november general elections. We Are, and there is no way around it. Just like the prop 85 parental notification law was turned down in 2006, and it’s twin sister just a few years before that, we’re determined to give prop 4 the same non existent destiny.

To be honest, prop 4 scares me; however, a similar proposed constitutional amendment on an upcoming ballot in Colorado terrifies me like a giant ominous cloud predicting a storm of the likes i’ve never experienced. Brief synopsis of the two to my understanding:
Prop 4 in California: requires a physician to notify a minor’s parents/legal guardians of her plan to abort at least 48 hours before the procedure, or otherwise obtain a parental waiver. In the case of domestic abuse households, the minor may appeal to a judge in court to waive the need for parental notification or a waiver. ( note: this is worthless for the following reason.) Any person may only obtain abortions within the first 23 days of pregnancy; 24 days and beyond will be considered murder, and may be prosocuted as such. Any doctors who do not follow or report any part of this proposed law will be fined, heavily.

Colorado proposed amendment: a proposition to amend the state constitution to define life at FERTILIZATION. Thus, any tampering with terminating a pregnancy is murder. Miscarriage may be murder if it is proven that a mother drank or smoked ( neglect), and and idea of a chlids existence once fertilized is granted the full set of rights of an adult citizen. IF YOU DON’T SEE WHY THIS IS A SLIPPERY SLOPE, ALLOW ME TO EXTRAPOLATE. The victory for the people backing this proposition isn’t only winning in colorado; it’s winning in colorado, inevitably getting a law case on it from a women who challenges the constitutional foundation of the amendment after feeling it’s wrath, the US Supreme court eventually adopting this case, and overturning roe v wade, setting colorados definition of ‘life’ as a nationwide precedent. All abortions, emergency contraception, IUD’s, and more would be illegal and perhaps tried as murder.

Now, Prop 4 is dark enough on it’s own merits, but i hope you can see, America, that the first step in passing dangerous laws like that proposed in Colorado is first normalized and garnering support for parental notification laws and loser definition of life laws.

we are well on our way to seeing the glass ceiling collapse in. Birth control, in my mind, has given women the blessing of education because having sex didnt means having to be pregnant very young and become a mother. Women are being given al of the responsibility and repercussions but none of the rights and freedoms in these propositions.

steam is coming out of my ears.

As far as the parental notification law goes, adults, hear me out: I know that it is very tempting to vote yes for this prop because you would want your child to tell you if she was pregnant or considering an abortion.Please recognize that just because you’d want to be there to support your daughter and to be notified, it is dangerous to use your relationship and method of parenthood as a blanket rule for all of the daughters and parents in California. Parental notification laws are dangerous and lead to many back-alley abortions, self-administered abortions, domestic unrest, and young girls traveling long distances across state lines to acsess abortions in bordering states with no parental notification laws. If I were a mom, I think i would rather not know about my 15 year old daughters abortion down the road at a planned parenthood than have her travel to nowheresvillie southern washington alone to get the same thing.

I am mad that women’s gift to be able to create life is no longer on her own terms. she is an incubator, she is a battle ground for controversy, she is the dumping ground for politics. steam is coming out of my ears. for more information, look at the cover of the new yorker.

so in the midst of planning our campaign against prop 4 ( and 8 but thats more the glbta territory to plan) i ran across a website and found some saying I like. I’ll close this post with these, to keep things a little more lighthearted:

*A feminist is anyone who recognizes the equality and full humanity of women and men. — Gloria Steinem
*A feminist is any woman who tells the truth about her life. — Virginia Woolf
*Facts are theory laden; theories are value laden; values are history laden. — Donna J. Haraway
*I became a feminist as an alternative to becoming a masochist. — Sally Kempton.
*I myself have never been able to find out precisely what feminism is: I only know that people call me a feminist whenever I express sentiments that differentiate me from a doormat… — Rebecca West, 1913, The Clarion.
*Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful committed citizens can change the world. Indeed, it is the only thing that ever has. — Margaret Mead.
*Radical feminism is called “radical” because it is struggling to bring about really fundamental changes in society. We, in this segment of the movement, do not believe that the oppression of women will be ended by giving them a bigger piece of the pie… We believe that the pie itself is rotten. — Bonnie Kreps
*We ask justice, we ask equality, we ask that all civil and political rights that belong to the citizens of the United States be guaranteed to us and our daughters forever. — Susan B. Anthony
*First, whiteness is a location of structural advantage, of race privilege. Second, it is a “standpoint,” a place from which white people look at ourselves, at others, and at society. Third, “whiteness” refers to a set of cultural practices that are usually unmarked and unnamed. [Frankenberg, Ruth. (1993). White Women, Race Matters: The Social Construction of Whiteness. London: Routledge. (p. 1)]
*Men act and women appear. Men look at women. Women watch themselves being looked at. [Simone de Beauvoir, 1949, 16]

and because the first part of this blog post was so bitter, im attempting to counter balance that with the profound and often witty wisdom of various women:

*Because I am a woman, I must make unusual efforts to succeed. If I fail, no one will say, “She doesn’t have what it takes.” They will say, “Women don’t have what it takes.” — Clare Booth Luce
*Easy is an adjective used to describe a woman who has the sexual morals of a man. — Nancy Linn-Desmond
*I speak out of direct and particular anger at an academic conference, and a white woman says, Tell me how you feel but don’t say it too harshly or I cannot hear you. — Audre Lorde
*I have yet to hear a man ask for advice on how to combine marriage and a career. — Gloria Steinem
*I’m not going to vacuum ‘til Sears makes one you can ride on. — Roseanne Barr
*If high heels were so wonderful, men would be wearing them. — Sue Grafton
*It’s interesting to speculate how it developed that in two of the most anti-feminist institutions, the church and the law court, the men are wearing the dresses. — Flo Kennedy
*Men are taught to apologize for their weaknesses, women for their strengths. — Lois Wyse
*My address is like my shoes. It travels with me. I abide where there is a fight against wrong. — Mother Jones.
*Nobody can make you feel inferior without your permission. — Eleanor Roosevelt .
*Our struggle today is not to have a female Einstein get appointed as an assistant professor. It is for a woman schlemiel to get as quickly promoted as a male schlemiel. — Bella Abzug
*The truth shall set you free, but first it will piss you off. — Gloria Steinem
*The phrase “working mother” is redundant. — Jane Sellman
*There are very few jobs that actually require a penis or vagina. All other jobs should be open to everybody. — Florynce Kennedy
*We’ll never solve the feminization of power until we solve the masculinity of wealth. — Gloria Steinem
*We’ve begun to raise daughters more like sons… but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters. — Gloria Steinem
*Women are not inherently passive or peaceful. We’re not inherently anything but human. — Robin Morgan
*You see a lot of smart guys with dumb women, but you hardly ever see a smart woman with a dumb guy. — Erica Jong

America’s Popular Crowd

12 Jul

If you have ever been to a salon or waiting room, you’ll know what I’m saying. If you’ve ever been on an airplane, inside a mall dressing room, tuned into a cable network, paroozed Perez Hilton’s site or have watched a sea of manicured nails and hungry eyes do just that from the back of a lecture hall, you’ll know what I’m saying. Celebrities are the new gods of Mt. Olympus. Their fabulous lives have us entranced.

My grandma does not have a computer at home. I bring my laptop out to the porch, which awakened her from her siesta/ wine coma. Giddy as a school girl, she asks me to look something up for her. In reterospect I should have said no, because i wasted 10 valuable minutes of my evening researching the relationship ( or lack there of) of two ex-contestants on Dancing with the Stars. My Grandma is almost 80 years old, and even she is not exempt from Celebricitis. And neither am I; although I avoid a lot of celebrity culture, I do consider the characters on The Office to be real and furthermore, my friends. No shame in it, I’m sure everyone has a guilty pleasure.

Another pleasure of mine, just as as guilty nerdy as celeb voyerism is vapid, is browsing Jstor ( the USC online catalouge of eJournals.) But today, I stumbled upon a keeper: “Celebrity Watching”, by Michael Newbery. And if this Newbery fellow is credible, then I may have learned my something new today.

Notes from the Journal:
A celebrity is someone known for their well-knownness. Back in the good ol’ days, the spotlight was on the hero; the distinction between the hero and the celebrity is that a hero is a person admired for their great deeds or a great achievement who created him/herself whereas a celebrity is created by the media.Blinding ourselves with frivilous celebrity culture is a perfected art of self deception.And it gets better. The original celebrity as we use it in present day terms? WHy, Earnest Hemingway, of course, who lent himself to be mass distributed as a charictature of masculinity.

It goes on, I won’t follow suit, but pretty interesting stuff.

America’s Popular Crowd

11 Jul

If you have ever been to a salon or waiting room, you’ll know what I’m saying. If you’ve ever been on an airplane, inside a mall dressing room, tuned into a cable network, paroozed Perez Hilton’s site or have watched a sea of manicured nails and hungry eyes do just that from the back of a lecture hall, you’ll know what I’m saying. Celebrities are the new gods of Mt. Olympus. Their fabulous lives have us entranced.

My grandma does not have a computer at home. I bring my laptop out to the porch, which awakened her from her siesta/ wine coma. Giddy as a school girl, she asks me to look something up for her. In reterospect I should have said no, because i wasted 10 valuable minutes of my evening researching the relationship ( or lack there of) of two ex-contestants on Dancing with the Stars. My Grandma is almost 80 years old, and even she is not exempt from Celebricitis. And neither am I; although I avoid a lot of celebrity culture, I do consider the characters on The Office to be real and furthermore, my friends. No shame in it, I’m sure everyone has a guilty pleasure.

Another pleasure of mine, just as as guilty nerdy as celeb voyerism is vapid, is browsing Jstor ( the USC online catalouge of eJournals.) But today, I stumbled upon a keeper: “Celebrity Watching”, by Michael Newbery. And if this Newbery fellow is credible, then I may have learned my something new today.

Notes from the Journal:
A celebrity is someone known for their well-knownness. Back in the good ol’ days, the spotlight was on the hero; the distinction between the hero and the celebrity is that a hero is a person admired for their great deeds or a great achievement who created him/herself whereas a celebrity is created by the media.Blinding ourselves with frivilous celebrity culture is a perfected art of self deception.And it gets better. The original celebrity as we use it in present day terms? WHy, Earnest Hemingway, of course, who lent himself to be mass distributed as a charictature of masculinity.

It goes on, I won’t follow suit, but pretty interesting stuff.

The office trivia

11 Jul

Did You Know:

Creator Greg Daniels from the office is also creator of King of the Hill. Furthermore, he is the brother in law of Angela Kinsey ( ‘Angela Martin’ on the office) and Paul LIeberstien ( Toby on the office).

The office trivia

10 Jul

Did You Know:

Creator Greg Daniels from the office is also creator of King of the Hill. Furthermore, he is the brother in law of Angela Kinsey ( ‘Angela Martin’ on the office) and Paul LIeberstien ( Toby on the office).

If You Can’t Take the Corn, Get Out of the Field

1 Jul


Happy Birthday baby, 3 hours ish until the 20th anniversary of your escape from the womb. The distance is heartache homicide, and I wish nothing more than sharing this day with you and a cohort of quasi-potty trained 4 year olds. But soon enough…

Coming to understand You has been coming to understand Myself. In a few words, with you, there have been times when I’ve laughed, cried, argued, celebrated, all over Nothing. I’ve actually relished moments at Bovard and Sinai Scholars ( thus, disproving multiple scientific theories); when my raised eyebrows meet your smirk, our cynicism unites and all else fades away… You asked me if I think of you as a man or a boy at the turn of your last tween year into your early twenties. I said that a ‘man’ connotes more life experience that that of a 20 year old, like having kids or living/working/paying all bills independently. But ya know what- I partially revoke my answer. If one needs more years to get more life experience to gain more insight and wisdom and general and random human competence to be a man, then I was wrong because you have wisdom and insight already so that nixes the must-be-alive-for-another-decade argument. If annual public school testing taught me anything, it’s when I think I have the right answer to verify it through another source. So here’s the verification: when life happens, we fall together instead of fall apart. Enough said.

Happy birthday, see you SO SO SOOOOON!

If You Can’t Take the Corn, Get Out of the Field

1 Jul


Happy Birthday baby, 3 hours ish until the 20th anniversary of your escape from the womb. The distance is heartache homicide, and I wish nothing more than sharing this day with you and a cohort of quasi-potty trained 4 year olds. But soon enough…

Coming to understand You has been coming to understand Myself. In a few words, with you, there have been times when I’ve laughed, cried, argued, celebrated, all over Nothing. I’ve actually relished moments at Bovard and Sinai Scholars ( thus, disproving multiple scientific theories); when my raised eyebrows meet your smirk, our cynicism unites and all else fades away… You asked me if I think of you as a man or a boy at the turn of your last tween year into your early twenties. I said that a ‘man’ connotes more life experience that that of a 20 year old, like having kids or living/working/paying all bills independently. But ya know what- I partially revoke my answer. If one needs more years to get more life experience to gain more insight and wisdom and general and random human competence to be a man, then I was wrong because you have wisdom and insight already so that nixes the must-be-alive-for-another-decade argument. If annual public school testing taught me anything, it’s when I think I have the right answer to verify it through another source. So here’s the verification: when life happens, we fall together instead of fall apart. Enough said.

Happy birthday, see you SO SO SOOOOON!

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